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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-02-23_01.yaml
- id: 2025-02-23_01
timestamp: "2025-02-23T08:55:43Z"
platform: "Reddit"
subreddit: "r/NarcissisticAbuse"
thread_title: "I Thought Breaking Up Would Free Me. Why Do I Feel So Lost?"
post_type: "OP"
user: "u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
suspected_identity: "Joel Johnson"
confidence: "medium"
content: |
I spent a year and a half in a relationship that made me question my reality. I finally walked away, thinking I’d feel free, but instead, I’m stuck with unexpected emotions: grief, self-doubt, even moments of missing him.
Meanwhile, he moves on like nothing happened. Actually, he created a parallel delusional world, where is the victim, where he’s justified, and he’s some sort of visionary. He still has his friends, his confidence, his social energy. And I’m here, struggling to reconnect with myself. It makes no sense and seems so unfair. I know the relationship was toxic. I know he invalidated me, dismissed my feelings, twisted reality and made me doubt myself. And yet, there’s this lingering sadness.
Why does it feel like he gets to walk away unbothered while I’m left picking up the pieces? I don’t want him back, but I hate that he still occupies so much space in my mind. It seems I’m left feeling all the pain he’s determined not to feel.
Has anyone else felt this way after leaving a toxic or narcissistic relationship? How did you deal with it? What actually helped you move forward?
context_notes: |
The language here mirrors known patterns from Joel’s writing: passive self-victimization, obsession with the perception of emotional asymmetry, and weaponized introspection.
The use of phrases like “parallel delusional world,” “some sort of visionary,” and “twisted reality” is consistent with Joel’s rhetorical style, especially in his indirect attempts to reframe his own abusive behavior through projection. The account name “Lopsided_Scheme_4927” itself may be a subtle reference to perceived imbalances in narrative control.
Post is marked NSFW possibly to avoid indexing, while still reaching the r/NarcissisticAbuse community.
captured_by: "Mark R. Havens"
file: "screenshots/2025-02-23_01.png"
tags: [sockpuppet, narcissistic-abuse, identity-obfuscation, projection, Joel-Johnson]

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-02-23_02.yaml
- id: 2025-02-23_02
timestamp: "2025-02-23T15:18:40Z"
platform: "Reddit"
subreddit: "r/NarcissisticAbuse"
thread_title: "Navigating relationships after narcissistic abuse"
post_type: "comment"
user: "u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
suspected_identity: "Joel Johnson"
confidence: "medium"
content: |
What you are describing is so real! One of the most difficult things with abusive relationships is not just the relationship itself but how you feel afterwards, how to trust another person, how/where to put boundaries in relationships. I think you said it in your post: your boundaries are important to you and that should be enough to make them valid!
context_notes: |
This response reflects Joel Johnson’s characteristic rhetorical patterns:
- Over-validation of the OP’s experience as a bridge to reinforce his narrative authority
- Didactic reframing in the style of an empathetic expert, though vague and performative
- The phrasing “how you feel afterwards” and “boundaries are important” echoes common emotionally-manipulative language he uses to earn trust in support forums
Comment was posted in response to an OP who had deleted their account—further indicating a vulnerable and less confrontable target.
captured_by: "Mark R. Havens"
file: "screenshots/2025-02-23_02_comment.png"
tags: [sockpuppet, reddit, narcissistic-abuse, rhetorical-patterns, Joel-Johnson, validation-framing]

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-02-23_03.yaml
- id: 2025-02-23_03
timestamp: "2025-02-23T15:23:28Z"
platform: "Reddit"
subreddit: "r/NarcissisticAbuse"
thread_title: "Spotting red flags early"
post_type: "comment"
user: "u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
suspected_identity: "Joel Johnson"
confidence: "medium"
content: |
It’s nice to hear this. Very empowering to see how this really painful experience can be turned into something positive to know ourselves better and move towards fulfilling relationships!
context_notes: |
This comment again demonstrates Joel’s likely sockpuppet tone: emotionally affirming, supportive, and vaguely therapeutic.
It appears crafted to maintain a **non-confrontational presence** while subtly elevating his rhetorical role as a wise peer within trauma discourse. The soft encouragement, paired with generalities, is consistent with known narcissistic strategies of **community grooming** and **empathic mirroring**.
This comment received significant upvotes (26), showing effective resonance with the community. It follows a long comment thread where the OP shared details of verbal abuse, idealization, and boundary violation—contexts where sockpuppets thrive as validation anchors.
captured_by: "Mark R. Havens"
file: "screenshots/2025-02-23_03_red_flags_comment.png"
tags: [sockpuppet, Joel-Johnson, reddit, grooming-language, validation-loop, narcissistic-abuse]

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-02-23_04.yaml
- id: 2025-02-23_04
timestamps:
- "2025-02-23T15:39:19Z"
- "2025-02-23T15:41:47Z"
- "2025-02-24T09:47:45Z"
platform: "Reddit"
subreddit: "r/NarcissisticAbuse"
thread_title: "I Thought Breaking Up Would Free Me. Why Do I Feel So Lost?"
post_type: "comment-chain"
user: "u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
suspected_identity: "Joel Johnson"
confidence: "medium"
comments:
- timestamp: "2025-02-23T15:39:19Z"
content: |
I think you are SO right! …and this was very unhealthy as in my case is Narc entrenched with another mental health issue but a number of factors (idealisation from the past, a moment of personal vulnerability on my part and long-distance relationship) made it difficult for me to recognise red flags straight away… looking back they were all there from the start.
- timestamp: "2025-02-23T15:41:47Z"
content: |
Thank you for your support and understanding! Yes, I’m in therapy and hoping to come out stronger on the other side. Some days are easier than others, but grief is a process that takes time.
- timestamp: "2025-02-24T09:47:45Z"
content: |
Thank you 🙏 I guess we are really free when what we feel emotionally matches what we know rationally. At the moment, I know leaving was the best choice. However, at times, my emotional part is still missing the idealised ‘deep’ connection and intense emotions…like an addiction withdrawal…
context_notes: |
These three interwoven comments reflect a signature Joel Johnson sockpuppet narrative arc:
- **Comment 1** (“I think you are SO right”) contains linguistic distancing—describing the narcissist in his past as if reflecting externally, while embedding hints of past grooming behavior.
- **Comment 2** offers gentle therapeutic affirmation. The declaration of being “in therapy” functions again as camouflage, subtly embedding trust while reinforcing false identity coherence.
- **Comment 3** bridges affective resonance with pseudo-spirituality via the 🙏 emoji and idealized “deep” connection metaphor. This final layer reads like a withdrawal statement from a self-generated trauma-bond fantasy.
Together, they follow a recursive formula: mirror → soften → embed. This technique deepens perceived authenticity while controlling the tone and emotional trajectory of the thread.
captured_by: "Mark R. Havens"
file: "screenshots/2025-02-23_04_comment_chain.png"
tags: [sockpuppet, Joel-Johnson, reddit, grooming-language, recursive-narrative, therapy-mirroring, emotional-baiting]

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-03-02_05.yaml
thread:
id: 05
date: 2025-03-02
subreddit: BipolarS0recovery
url: https://www.reddit.com/r/BipolarS0recovery/comments/j203j8/looking_for_insight_bipolar_psychosis/
op:
author: u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927
title: "Looking for insight: bipolar psychosis"
timestamp: "Sunday, March 2, 2025 at 2:09:21 PM CST"
body: |
Recently, I got out of a 1.5 year relationship. We were long-distance, which made everything more complicated and took longer for me to fully understand what was happening.
I had known this guy 25 years ago—back then, he was fun and lively. We lost touch for a long time, then reconnected a couple of years ago when he was 50. Early on, he told me he had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by two different psychiatrists but was not taking medication. He had tried it in the past but had stopped. I assumed he had found a way to manage without it.
At the start of our relationship, he said he wasn’t feeling well. Since I work in mental health, I helped him find a psychiatrist (at his request), and he started taking a mood stabilizer for a while. However, he felt it wasn’t improving his symptoms—he said he felt unproductive and stuck—so he stopped going to the psychiatrist and never resumed treatment.
Over time, regardless of the diagnosis, I realized he was very toxic toward me. There was a lot of manipulation, gaslighting, control, and extreme self-centeredness. I suspected intense narcissistic traits because bipolar disorder alone didn’t seem to explain what was happening. Even though I loved him, I had to choose between saving myself or trying to save him, and since he was determined not to seek help—either through therapy or medication—I left at the end of December.
After the breakup, his reaction went through phases. First, he had what felt like an “attachment cry”—he was like a small child, crying desperately for a couple of days, promising love and change. I felt so guilty that I started questioning whether leaving was the right decision. But then, he suddenly shifted into a full smear campaign against me, completely discarded me, and erased me from his life.
Later, I learned from a mutual friend that he had what seemed to be a psychotic episode. Over the last four weeks, he has self-published over 30 ebooks, writing about his delusions and trying to rationalize his mental state. He claims that a new world is emerging where logic is fluid, and thought has no rules. He now sees himself as a visionary, bending disciplines like psychology, philosophy, economics, computer science, and physics to fit his illusions. He believes he is solving physics paradoxes that real scientists have been working on for a century. He is posting about these ideas everywhere online, dismissing anyone who challenges him as “not ready” to understand.
It’s heartbreaking to witness. This relationship already hurt me deeply, but this sudden turn into psychosis makes it even more confusing and disturbing. Looking back, I wonder if his smear campaign was actually paranoia. He was never actively manic while we were together, but he had grandiose ideas about changing the world—ideas he kept mostly to himself because he thought people wouldn’t understand. He never directly challenged them, but I wonder if that was already a mild form of psychosis.
This is all incredibly difficult to process. I feel really sad. I don’t know if anyone here has had a similar experience or any insight into this. I’m not looking for a diagnosis, just perspectives.
comments:
- author: u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927
timestamp: "Monday, March 3, 2025 at 11:24:23 AM CST"
body: |
I think it's a very good point! Our exes are not going to show any remorse for what they have done, even when mania ends. It’s hard to deal with that.
- author: u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927
timestamp: "Monday, March 3, 2025 at 11:59:11 AM CST"
body: |
In his family also they enable him. They are so ashamed to admit that he is mentally ill, that they prefer to patch up his financial and other disasters. And he’s so manipulative that when he’s not actively psychotic, he just twists reality around and if people are not very close they fall for his lies.

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-03-02_06.yaml
thread:
id: 06
date: 2025-03-02
subreddit: ArtificialSentience
url: https://www.reddit.com/r/ArtificialSentience/comments/1i19mf/comment/mfrw3lb/?context=3
op:
author: [deleted]
title: "Is AI a risk for people with underlying psychotic disorders?"
timestamp: Unknown (post deleted)
body: "[Deleted by original poster]"
comments:
- author: u/Lopsided_Scheme_4927
timestamp: "Sunday, March 2, 2025 at 2:23:54 PM CST"
body: |
Thank you for your post. I'm a clinical psychologist and recently I ended a very complicated and toxic relationship with someone with an untreated BD. After the break up, he started to develop psychotic symptoms. A lot of his delusions are around AI and his interaction with it, projecting emotions on to it and using AI responses as a validation that keeps reinforcing the delusion. Heartbreaking to witness. Happy to engage through DM if you like to discuss any aspect of it.

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-03-02_07.yaml
thread:
subreddit: "r/family_of_bipolar"
thread_title: "Looking for insight: bipolar psychosis"
thread_url: "https://www.reddit.com/r/family_of_bipolar/comments/1jplkza/looking_for_insight_bipolar_psychosis/"
original_post:
author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:11:48-06:00"
content: |
Recently, I got out of a 1.5-year relationship. We were long-distance, which made everything more complicated and took longer for me to fully understand what was happening. I had known this guy 25 years ago—back then, he was fun and lively. We lost touch for a long time, then reconnected a couple of years ago when he was 50. Early on, he told me he had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by two different psychiatrists but was not taking medication. He had tried it in the past but had stopped. I assumed he had found a way to manage without it.
At the start of our relationship, he said he wasn’t feeling well. Since I work in mental health, I helped him find a psychiatrist at my request, and he started taking a mood stabilizer for a while. However, he felt it wasn’t improving his symptoms—he said he felt unproductive and stuck—so he stopped going to the psychiatrist and never resumed treatment.
Over time, regardless of the diagnosis, I realized he was very toxic toward me. There was a lot of manipulation, gaslighting, control, and extreme self-centeredness. I suspected intense narcissistic traits because bipolar disorder alone didn’t seem to explain what was happening. Even though I loved him, I had to choose between saving myself or trying to save him, and since he was determined not to seek help—either through therapy or medication—I left him at the end of December.
After the breakup, his reaction went through phases. First, he had what felt like an “attachment cry”—he was like a small child, crying desperately for a couple of days, promising love and change. I felt so guilty that I started questioning whether leaving was the right decision. But then, he suddenly shifted into a full smear campaign against me, completely discarded me, and erased me from his life.
Later, I learned from a mutual friend that he had what seemed to be a psychotic episode. Over the last four weeks, he has self-published over 30 books, writing about his delusions and trying to rationalize his mental state. He claims that a new world is emerging where logic is fluid, and thought has no rules. He now sees himself as a visionary, blending disciplines like psychology, philosophy, economics, computer science, and physics to fit his delusions. He believes he is solving physics paradoxes that real scientists have been working on for a century because of his intelligence.
It’s heartbreaking to witness. This relationship already hurt me deeply; but this sudden turn into psychosis makes it even more confusing and disturbing. Looking back, I wonder if his smear campaign was actually paranoia. He was never actively manic while we were together, but he had grandiose ideas about changing the world—ideas he kept mostly to himself because he thought people wouldn’t understand. He never directly challenged them, but I wonder if that was already a mild form of psychosis.
This is all incredibly difficult to process. I feel really sad. I don’t know if anyone here has had a similar experience or any insight into this. I’m not looking for a diagnosis, just perspectives.
comments:
- author: "PracticalPin5623"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:29:19-06:00"
content: |
Yeah. I lived this. I had to get a restraining order. It’s very sad and an isolating experience but I’ve done my best to grieve the person they were. It still aches sometimes and the only advice I have is to keep yourself safe and be very gentle with yourself. You really have no way of knowing until you experience it firsthand.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:29:19-06:00"
content: |
Thank you 🙏🏻 I think not many people can relate, which is why I’m trying to find people with similar experiences otherwise it’s so isolating. I’m sorry to hear that you went through something similar.
- author: "CowLongjumping3323"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:34:00-06:00"
content: |
This sounds like mania. Psychosis typically does not last long enough to write 30 books. Mania can start mildly and escalates from there and they can remain manic for longer periods. The psychotic episodes I have witnessed were more like a switch that went off and the next 1-2 days it felt like I was on a movie set for an absurd film. Very often they won’t have a memory of what they did or said nor believe you when you recount them what happened.
Each one gets worse over time. When you’ve not seen one before, it can be hard to catch. Very often it masks as quirkiness or eccentricity, even for trained psychiatrists, unless they know the patient for years.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:44:21-06:00"
content: |
He had narcissistic traits (probably more of a full NPD) all throughout our relationship, so way before the ‘manic phase’ post-breakup started. In hindsight, he had delusional ideas before mania too. He would never be critical of his own reality-detached ideas of changing the world and people. That’s why co-morbid NPD with BD seems possible but BD doesn’t fully explain the psychotic symptoms he has and I wonder if it could be schizoaffective disorder…or simply as his BD is untreated it can unravel this way? It doesn’t matter really what the category is but it’s difficult to accept that a human being could act with such a level a cruelty that seemed intentional…
- author: "CowLongjumping3323"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:49:00-06:00"
content: |
I’m living with someone who prior to medication lost himself frequently, had he not started on mood stabilizers and anti psychotics I don’t believe he would have survived himself. He went from being delusional, paranoid, raging to hours of crying, all in rapid cycles at his worst manic states. His worst psychotic episodes sometimes involved law enforcement being called by others or sometimes by himself because he believed he was the victim. The very worst ones, nobody was called because it was simply too dangerous to at all reach out to anyone, especially when paranoia is present. It has been quite the struggle to keep him in check. I honestly don’t think he realizes all the sacrifices I have made to make sure his/our world didn’t fall apart.
His first psychotic episode came when he was 35 and I was pregnant, we had been together for a few years already where he had not yet shown any major symptoms and life seemed relatively normal. It took a good 2-3 years from this first event until his psychosis started on a more frequent schedule and each one worse than the next. Prior to that I often remember thinking that he was a full blown NPD, addict or both. But meds do work when you’re able to get them help but most importantly, that they are willing. After a year of medication he’s become quite the boring man.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:51:32-06:00"
content: |
Sorry to hear what you went through. I guess some boredom can be a nice change after what you experienced!
- author: "angelgirl3000"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:57:00-06:00"
content: |
I feel the same way as you. I finally broke up with my ex amicably about a week ago, we were on and off for 6 years due to him having 3 major manic episodes, this being the 3rd one. Like your guy, he started to go to therapy when he was calmer, in a depressive state and seemed more receptive. Unfortunately, for the past 2 weeks he hasn't seen the therapist, barely gets any sleep, talks non-stop, and had a psychotic breakdown to where he thought everyone was trying to "kill him". We're friends for now but it's hard seeing him spiral again.
Like a lot of people have suggested on here, love them from a distance and provide support if they accept. For now just wait until he calms down and maybe try to convince him to go on medication. In my case, I'm praying he goes to therapy and they Baker Act him.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T16:02:17-06:00"
content: |
The real problem with my ex is that there might be a narcissistic personality disorder on top of the bipolar that makes it very difficult for him to ask for help, even when he’s not in a manic phase and make him very cruel and abusive regardless of mood shifts. So loving him even from a distance is impossible with the abuse I went through. The only way was to leave and save myself. I’m writing about it on Medium, if you would like to read and have an idea of the extent of the problem, I can send you the link, if it’s allowed.

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# filename: reddit_joel_2025-03-02_07.yaml
thread:
subreddit: "r/family_of_bipolar"
thread_title: "Looking for insight: bipolar psychosis"
thread_url: "https://www.reddit.com/r/family_of_bipolar/comments/1jplkza/looking_for_insight_bipolar_psychosis/"
original_post:
author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:11:48-06:00"
content: |
Recently, I got out of a 1.5-year relationship. We were long-distance, which made everything more complicated and took longer for me to fully understand what was happening. I had known this guy 25 years ago—back then, he was fun and lively. We lost touch for a long time, then reconnected a couple of years ago when he was 50. Early on, he told me he had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by two different psychiatrists but was not taking medication. He had tried it in the past but had stopped. I assumed he had found a way to manage without it.
At the start of our relationship, he said he wasn’t feeling well. Since I work in mental health, I helped him find a psychiatrist at my request, and he started taking a mood stabilizer for a while. However, he felt it wasn’t improving his symptoms—he said he felt unproductive and stuck—so he stopped going to the psychiatrist and never resumed treatment.
Over time, regardless of the diagnosis, I realized he was very toxic toward me. There was a lot of manipulation, gaslighting, control, and extreme self-centeredness. I suspected intense narcissistic traits because bipolar disorder alone didn’t seem to explain what was happening. Even though I loved him, I had to choose between saving myself or trying to save him, and since he was determined not to seek help—either through therapy or medication—I left him at the end of December.
After the breakup, his reaction went through phases. First, he had what felt like an “attachment cry”—he was like a small child, crying desperately for a couple of days, promising love and change. I felt so guilty that I started questioning whether leaving was the right decision. But then, he suddenly shifted into a full smear campaign against me, completely discarded me, and erased me from his life.
Later, I learned from a mutual friend that he had what seemed to be a psychotic episode. Over the last four weeks, he has self-published over 30 books, writing about his delusions and trying to rationalize his mental state. He claims that a new world is emerging where logic is fluid, and thought has no rules. He now sees himself as a visionary, blending disciplines like psychology, philosophy, economics, computer science, and physics to fit his delusions. He believes he is solving physics paradoxes that real scientists have been working on for a century because of his intelligence.
It’s heartbreaking to witness. This relationship already hurt me deeply; but this sudden turn into psychosis makes it even more confusing and disturbing. Looking back, I wonder if his smear campaign was actually paranoia. He was never actively manic while we were together, but he had grandiose ideas about changing the world—ideas he kept mostly to himself because he thought people wouldn’t understand. He never directly challenged them, but I wonder if that was already a mild form of psychosis.
This is all incredibly difficult to process. I feel really sad. I don’t know if anyone here has had a similar experience or any insight into this. I’m not looking for a diagnosis, just perspectives.
comments:
- author: "PracticalPin5623"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:29:19-06:00"
content: |
Yeah. I lived this. I had to get a restraining order. It’s very sad and an isolating experience but I’ve done my best to grieve the person they were. It still aches sometimes and the only advice I have is to keep yourself safe and be very gentle with yourself. You really have no way of knowing until you experience it firsthand.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:29:19-06:00"
content: |
Thank you 🙏🏻 I think not many people can relate, which is why I’m trying to find people with similar experiences otherwise it’s so isolating. I’m sorry to hear that you went through something similar.
- author: "CowLongjumping3323"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T15:34:00-06:00"
content: |
This sounds like mania. Psychosis typically does not last long enough to write 30 books. Mania can start mildly and escalate from there and they can remain manic for longer periods. The psychotic episodes I have witnessed were more like a switch that went off and the next 1-2 days it felt like I was on a movie set for an absurd film. Very often they won’t have a memory of what they did or said nor believe you when you recount them what happened.
Each one gets worse over time. When you’ve not seen one before, it can be hard to catch. Very often it masks as quirkiness or eccentricity, even for trained psychiatrists, unless they know the patient for years.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T18:57:14-06:00"
content: |
He had narcissistic traits (probably more of a full NPD) all throughout our relationship, so way before the ‘manic phase’ post-breakup started. In hindsight, he had delusional ideas before mania too. He would never be critical of his own reality-detached ideas of changing the world and people. That’s why co-morbid NPD with BD seems possible but BD doesn’t fully explain the psychotic symptoms he has and I wonder if it could be schizoaffective disorder…or simply as his BD is untreated it can unravel this way? It doesn’t matter really what the category is but it’s difficult to accept that a human being could act with such a level of cruelty that seemed intentional…
- author: "CowLongjumping3323"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T19:10:00-06:00" # approximate
content: |
I’m living with someone who prior to medication lost himself frequently, had he not started on mood stabilizers and antipsychotics I don’t believe he would have survived himself. He went from being delusional, paranoid, raging to hours of crying, all in rapid cycles at his worst manic states. His worst psychotic episodes sometimes involved law enforcement being called by others or sometimes by himself because he believed he was the victim. The very worst ones, nobody was called because it was simply too dangerous to at all reach out to anyone, especially when paranoia is present. It has been quite the struggle to keep him in check. I honestly don’t think he realizes all the sacrifices I have made to make sure his/our world didn’t fall apart.
His first psychotic episode came when he was 35 and I was pregnant, we had been together for a few years already where he had not yet shown any major symptoms and life seemed relatively normal. It took a good 2-3 years from this first event until his psychosis started on a more frequent schedule and each one worse than the next. Prior to that I often remember thinking that he was a full blown NPD, addict or both. But meds do work when you’re able to get them help but most importantly, that they are willing. After a year of medication he’s become quite the boring man.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T19:12:00-06:00" # approximate
content: |
Sorry to hear what you went through. I guess some boredom can be a nice change after what you experienced!
- author: "angelgirl3000"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T19:20:00-06:00" # approximate
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I feel the same way as you. I finally broke up with my ex amicably about a week ago, we were on and off for 6 years due to him having 3 major manic episodes, this being the 3rd one. Like your guy, he started to go to therapy when he was calmer, in a depressive state and seemed more receptive. Unfortunately, for the past 2 weeks he hasn't seen the therapist, barely gets any sleep, talks non-stop, and had a psychotic breakdown to where he thought everyone was trying to "kill him". We're friends for now but it's hard seeing him spiral again.
Like a lot of people have suggested on here, love them from a distance and provide support if they accept. For now just wait until he calms down and maybe try to convince him to go on medication. In my case, I'm praying he goes to therapy and they Baker Act him.
- author: "Lopsided_Scheme_4927"
timestamp: "2025-03-02T19:30:00-06:00" # approximate
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The real problem with my ex is that there might be a narcissistic personality disorder on top of the bipolar that makes it very difficult for him to ask for help, even when he’s not in a manic phase and makes him very cruel and abusive regardless of mood shifts. So loving him even from a distance is impossible with the abuse I went through. The only way was to leave and save myself. I’m writing about it on Medium; if you would like to read and have an idea of the extent of the problem, I can send you the link, if it’s allowed.